So I mentioned yesterday that Tony had a doctors appointment with his GP in yesterdays post. We appreciated all your well wishes by the way!
I asked him if he wanted me to go with him, and he said “no, you have to work, I can do it.”
So I slept like the dead while he had another rough night. Of course, I didn’t know this until I got to work and the more I thought about it, the more I realized there was no way Tony would be able to get there on his own.
For the last month he’s had hardly any appetite. In fact, since the date of his December 12 hernia surgery, he’s lost 31 pounds. I don’t need to go into any details, but let’s just say he’s made a lot of trips to the bathroom, and sometimes without warning. And he has zero energy, and can pretty much fall asleep any time during the day, but be up all night with insomnia and bathroom issues.
When we saw his surgeon last week, I went with because I thought his incision site from his surgery seemed infected, and there was an area that was super tender around the incision site that we were concerned about.
The surgeon gave us flying colors – said that it was a big surgery, it would just take time to heal, but if we had any concerns about anything else, we could make an appointment with our GP.
So since Tony hadn’t left our house since our last doctor appointment, has difficulty standing up without being light headed, as I was filing at my desk when a light bulb went off in my head and was like “how the fuck did I think he could get there on his own?!”
So I quickly texted him to tell him I was going to scoop him up on my way home from work. I had every intention of taking a long lunch and then going back to work. When I walked in the door, he was in his favorite chair, head down, asleep. I woke him up, got him in the car, and he fell asleep on the way to the doctors office. 🙁
We go in – see the doctor, bring him up to speed on his hernia surgery since its the first time he’s since him since then. He says “as a precaution, why don’t you come in tomorrow and we’ll do an ultrasound and some blood work to rule some stuff out.” It wasn’t until the end of the appointment that the nurse came in and said “I forgot to take your temperature!”
So a few seconds later she’s was like “it’s almost 101. The doctor will probably want to know this.” And a few minutes later the doctor looked at me and said “Biz, can you take him to the hospital? They know he’s coming I want him to have the ultrasound and blood work stat.” Shit.
So being the nice husband he is, told me to stop by the house and fix something to eat before heading for the outpatient pavilion for the tests. We get him registered, blood work done, then onto the ultrasound. I am not going to lie that I thought that the ultrasound would show some sort of abscess that may have become infected.
When he came out 20 minutes later he said “they didn’t see a thing – sweet!” I was told to call our GP around 4:30 to get the results of the blood test. Unfortunately, our phone rang at 4:00 p.m., it was the doctor who said that the ultrasound was negative for an abscess, unfortunately his blood work was “not optomistic.”
I heard words like “possible gastrointestinal infection, abnormal electrolye level, poor liver function, high bllod sugar, high uric acide and kidney function at 50%. Well shit, no wonder he hasn’t felt well these last six weeks! Here we thought it was just the surgery recovery, but there seem to be a lot of underlying factors that are the cause of him not being well.
Our only saving grace? They gave him the biggest hospital room in the whole place! He was sleeping in between blood draws. And this picture was taken from my blackberry in very low light.
What you don’t see behind me is a personal computer station and a giant bathroom. At least he won’t have a roommate snoring all night.
So tomorrow? Guess who’s coming for breakfast:
- infections disease doctor
- kidney specialist
- heart doctor (from his heart valve replacement)
- autoimmune specialist (for his bouts with chronic gout)
- and a hospital specialist – who will liason with our GP
Crazy shit. And for some reason God didn’t hear my 2012 resolution of no hospital stays in 2012!
So that’s why you’ll have to wait for the recipe for this brown rice crusted zucchini and ham quiche – I thought it was great, my boss said it had too many textures. I just think it looks pretty.
Your continued well wishes and support are wonderful – keep em coming! It’s gonna be a long day today. 🙁
p.s. Thanks to Hannah for her excellent cleaning skillz – she deep cleaned my kitchen while I was with Tony – love her! 😀
Sending healing thoughts in your direction – I spent six months in the hospital in 2011, so can relate to the wish for “no hospital stays in 2012”. If your husband is anything like me, then it probably means a lot to him that you’re there with him. Not sure how I would have fared without my family by my side. And make sure you have a good friend or other support person to listen to you vent when you need to. I never knew how hard it is for a loved one of someone who’s sick until my husband filled me in on how he felt during the whole ordeal. You need to take care of you, too.
Gosh, my heart really goes out to you Biz!!!! Soo much. You guys have been through enough with Tony’s health and I will pray for his healing. Love, V
I’m wishing Tony the best! You are all in my thoughts right now. This is not what I expected to read when I clicked over to your site. 🙁 I’m so sorry he’s dealing with more medical issues!
You and Tony are in my prayers, Biz. I want that team of doctors to get your man back on his feet, pronto. Meanwhile, those are some super fancy digs, in that hospital room. Your Hannah is so sweet–what a thoughtful thing to do. Glad you have her support.
{{ Hugs}} Biz, to you and Tony.
Oh, Biz! I’m so sorry to hear this! I am hoping that Tony is well again soon! Thinking of you guys!
Oh Biz, I’m so sorry to read this. I’ll be thinking about you and Tony! I hope they get him sorted out soon!
Biz, you and Tony are big time in my thoughts and prayers. Sending lots of love and light your way, my friend! xo
Prayers for both of you Biz! Thank goodness your GP is on top of things. Sounds like you are now in good hands and Tony needs some answers about what’s going on,
Hang in there!
Sending prayers your way for a speedy diagnois and recovery!
I’m so sorry to hear that Biz. I’ll be praying for Tony. Hugs!
Biz, I’m so sorry. I feel so bad for Tony.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Hopefully he’s out of there soon and gets to feeling better.
Sending good thoughts and prayers your way. Hope Tony feels better quick.
I am so glad he is there and getting the proper attention, that is crazy! Many healing vibes coming your way.
I’m still goggling over that hospital room. I think you could move in.
I am glad he had a quiet night and I hope this morning went well. I truly hope they can do something to make him feel like his old self.
Good thoughts and prayers to you all. We’ll be waiting on your next report. Tell Hannah she is the BEST!
Love ya’ all.
I’ve been thinking about you and Tony all day. Hope they are able to make a diagnosis quickly and Tony is on the road to recovery real soon! Take care!
Hugs to you both. I hope they figure out how to make him feel better very soon.
I’m so sorry. The hospital is not a fun place to be. Believe me I know. Hope Tony is better soon!
Bless your hearts, both of you. Your family is in my prayers, and I am sending hugs to you.
I am so sorry, Biz!!! Tony is definitely in my prayers and I’m sending you positive energy! Big hugs to you, my friend.
I’m glad his doctor moved on it and didn’t just leave it to “part of the process.” Hoping they find out what the problem is soon. Sending prayers your way!
Hugs and good vibes coming your way, hopefully this will be a short stay.
Hope all the experts get to the bottom of the problem soon. So sorry he has had so many problems since the surgery. Chin up. 🙂
Ugh, I’m so sorry! I hope they are able to get him racing back toward health – and that he gets to keep that sweet hospital room for the duration of his stay! Prayers and good thoughts coming to you from California!
That sucks. I hope they get to the bottom of this and he is on the road to recovery asap. Your boss is too critical. She should be thankful someone cooks for her.
Oh sweetie, I’m so sorry. My mom had been going through a lot of that last year too. Can’t sleep, bathroom issues, kidney and liver problems, can’t walk, not hungry, got light-headed. That’s why I was so worried reading about Tony’s symptoms – they sounded similar to my mom’s before she died in December.
(Of course hers were self-inflicted by alcohol, and in the end she totally gave up. TOTALLY not the same thing.)
I’m happy they have diagnosed him. I’m thinking of you guys.
You guys are in my prayers! 🙂
Holy crap Biz! Many prayers going out for Tony & hopes that it is not as serious as it sounds. Anyone who has spent anytime in a hospital knows how great that room is! That should help keep his spirits up a little. Take care of yourself while the docs take care of Tony.
I’m sending good vibes to you and Tony! Wishing for a speedy recovery!
Thoughts and prayers for you all! Please keep us posted!
How awful for Tony (and you!) – I am relieved to hear that he’s got a team of experts looking after him now (no thanks to the surgeon – geez that makes me mad to hear this!). Hope you will get some answers soon and Tony will feel like a new man.
Hi Biz, you guys are in my prayers!
Oh, Biz and Tony I am so sorry! So scary. I will keep you both in my prayers. And pray for a quick discovery of what is wrong and a quick recovery!
Thinkings of both of you and keeping you in my prayer. Please let me know if there is anything you need or anything I can do. J
Oh, Biz. I’m so sorry. Praying for you and Tony today – keep your head up!
Hang in there Biz! Praying for a speedy recovery and healing right now!! Thank goodness for a doc who finally listened!
Sending lots of prayers and healing thoughts Tony’s way. I’m so sorry to hear about this, but glad that Tony may finally get some answers. I can’t even imagine how stressful this is for you. Take care of yourself too Biz. Hugs!
Now that the doctors are aware, hopefully they can readily fix the problems. Hope Tony feels better soon. Best wishes to you both!
I’m so sorry to hear about Tony. Best of wishes, and my prayers are with you and your family!
Oh man, that sucks! But on the good news side I hope they have him feeling better soon. Sending healing thoughts your way!
Keeping you guys in my thoughts 🙂
Helpful daughters are the best! Too much texture? I say the more the better.
Major surgery is never easy. I know exactly what you are going through (the hospital part anyway). My dad had a kidney and pancreas transplant and my brother had a lung transplant. Yes he can breathe but you trade one huge set of problems for other smaller problems. Hospitals are a part of their life, it will always be that way.
My dad’s transplant was over 15 years ago and is now starting to fail. We are grateful it lasted this long but he lives in a lot of pain. His body is slowly giving out and it is so hard to see.
My prayers are with you Biz. It may take time but Tony is in good hands.
Prayers and good thoughts for you and Tony and your family. Stay strong Biz!
Oh goodness, Biz. Lots of prayers and hugs to you and Tony. Keep thinking “optimistic” regardless of what those docs say, okay?
BIG HUGS!
Thinking of you guys! Please keep us updated.
My God Biz, definitely not the post I was expecting to hear. I can’t believe he’s been feeling so horrible & his surgeon just passed it off like it was nothing. That infuriates me. My love & prayers to you & Tony. I hope you get some answers & of course much needed healing.
I’m thinking of you guys!!!! And I hope the exams and tests today will give you some answers and that Tony will feel better soon. Also, don’t forget to take care of yourself!
Sending you a big hug!
oh my gosh girl! My heart is with you both today
love and hugs to you and tony. i hope they figure it out soon!!!
Biz, I am so sorry this had to happen to Tony. I pray they find out what is wrong quickly so that they can get him better super fast. Hang in there, and that was so sweet of Hannah to clean up the kitchen, she is the best!
wow bizz, please let tony be okay, your family is like an internet family to me, i read your blogs daily, i look forward to your posts and tony being sick is like a family member being sick..as a nurse i want to kick some surgeons butt, if they knew he was losing weight and diarrhea and lethargy, da with the heart valve replacement, should have gotten aggressive with the testing..you have a great gp for getting him into hospital, just want to let you know most gp, would try to do it all outpatient and save money..good for yours get him in asap and start running tests…i will say a pray for tony today and he just has to be okay, as a nurse so many things are going thru my mind…please keep us updated..god bless tony and you all…
many hugs
connie from seattle..
So, so sorry to hear about Tony. The only good thing is that now that you and the doctors are aware of problems, hopefully his recovery will be speedier.
Oh my goodness! I hope the doctors find out and treat Tony’s problem soon. In the meantime, I hope he feels well enough to enjoy that nice room. He must have been feeling really bad for sometime now.
Take care of yourself as well!
Best,
Bonnie